I’m at work one day and I walked to a shelf to get some plates where a server was standing. I put my hand on the server’s back and said, “Below,” indicating that I was going to I bend down to get some plates from a lower shelf.
He laughed and said, “Don’t be down there too long. I might like it.”
I gave him a dirty look. “Hey man, I don’t play like that.” He apologized and that was pretty much the end of the day.
My problem is, why do people find this so funny? I use to do joke like this years ago until someone told me that “If you’re joking like that, it much mean you’re secretly like that.” Another issue I had was when I was at Herlong Prison Camp, it would scare me if men joked like that because I couldn’t tell if they really meant their jokes. I was told that the prison culture, a man would rape another man just to show his dominance over another inmate, among other reasons. That suck in my head, even when I came home.
As I got older and learned more about writing stories and humor, I learned that gay jokes is a quick and easy laugh that doesn’t require a ton of talent or craftsmanship. You could literally say that joke and get at least a chuckle. These are the reasons why I don’t like gay jokes.
I also have a problem with lack of professionalism that brings to the work environment. It’s hard enough going to work everyday. It’s hard enough dealing with guests in the restaurant environment who don’t want to be professional. I don’t need my fellow co-workers putting me in positions where I’m continuously uncomfortable because want to degrade me at their enjoyment. I understand we all need a good joke to lighten things up, but not at the risk of degrading our co-workers.
As time goes on, I continued that I don’t see the point in making fun of a group of people. I don’t see the humor in degrading people for my own enjoyment. Also, the fact that those groups of people aren’t present doesn’t excuse, nor allow, the use of that type of humor. I’m far from gay, but I don’t think it’s good that people make fun of another group for any reason. Those jokes tell me that a person doesn’t really see those individuals has human beings.
However, it seems as if I’m the only person who agrees with my point, so it looks like I’m going to be very quiet at work for the time being.